Friday, July 19, 2013

The Pinterest Generation

Have you pinned lately?  Don't know what I'm talking about?  Have you seen that cute little curly "P" on a website or at the bottom of an email?  In case you've been missing out, Pinterest is the new rage among the social media jet set and military spouses all over the world.

How does it work, you ask?  Well, it's way too simple... and addictive... and many, many hours have been lost in the midst of boards and pin and comments and likes.

Just a little primer:  Sign up for a Pinterest account.  Then, when you see a recipe, a wall decoration, a dress or a pair of shoes, a saying or a place that you'd like to remember and be able to access quickly in the future, just "pin it" and it will be there to find with you're ready to bake or cook or shop or be creative.  I must admit that I am a fan.  I've been pinning my way through the internet for about a year.  I started with one board dedicated to food... soon I split that board into six boards... sweets and savory... party foods and soups... breads and, just for kicks, a board dedicated to healthier food options than all of the other boards espoused. There are also boards for cool sayings, clothes and shoes (with just a total of 8 pins - just not my thing), beautiful places and spaces, books worth reading, and a board called "Who Knew?" for quirky things I might want to look for one day.

Now here's where it gets "social."  Once you start your boards, you invite people to "follow" you.  That way, they can see what you are interested in, what you're pinning and what you're saying about the things you like. And then you follow them back.  And soon there are all of these concentric circles, like ripples in a pond. Through this medium, ideas are shared and dreams are dreamed.  And it's a really pretty storage medium, which I like a lot.  No paper, no muss, no fuss.

I do have to admit, that while I have pinned almost 500 recipes, most of them have gone untested.  And some, which looked interesting in concept just didn't work out in practice, or they got jettisoned for something more desirable along the way.  I do try to make a habit of going through my boards every month or so and discarding pins that no longer interest me, or comment on ones that were especially good or a mediocre mess.  Do my Pinterest boards reflect the person that I am today?  I'm no so sure, but if so, I must be a big ole' chocolate bar, because over 60% of my food boards involve the melty, dark stuff.

I wonder if there is a spiritual equivalent to the Pinterest board... the place where theological principles and religious writers go to be quoted, but almost never lived out.  Am I espousing beautiful quotes about life and faith and God, but not reflecting them in my life everyday?  If you look at the quotes about life and faith I have posted, would you recognize them in the way I live?  Or are they wishful thinking on my part, and a picture of the world the way I want it to be?  Or worse yet, is pinning a theological position as far as I'm willing to go?

I don't know the answer to those questions... I don't even really know if they are legitimate questions at all. But I do know that I want what I profess to be reflected in the way I speak, live and post.  I hope that we're not just collecting snapshots of life without really living it. I hope even when we're trying to be healthier and more joyful in our living, that we can enjoy the journey and bring that same joy to those around us.

I thought to end I'd share some of my favorite sayings as posted on my Pinterest boards.  Tell me what you think.


















And here's one of my favorite recipes, just for kicks... this one I have tried and LOVE, LOVE, LOVE... it's worth every minute of the time it takes to prepare.

Raspberry Swirl Sweet Rolls from Sally's Baking Addiction can be found here..... 

They really are totally amazing... I promise.

Peace, Deb

Monday, July 15, 2013

Life is not like a DVR...

In 2001, the UPS m an delivered a box to our house.  The label on the outside said, "REPLAY TV."  When my husband got home, he rubbed his hands together with the excitement that many a techno-geek has experienced.  When I asked, "What is it?" he responded, "You're going to love it, I promise."  And he was right.  For what we had was  DVR - a digital video recorder.  No more VHS tapes... instead we would use a program guide to schedule recordings, and as an extra bonus, would be able to froward through commercials with the mere press of a button.  I think that we could record an amazing 30 hours of programming at that time, quite an amazing feat... and we could look at the recorded programming guide and just pick what we wanted to watch - no fast forwarding or rewinding.  We could even record one channel and watch something different, or watch a show from the beginning, even if it hadn't finished recording. As far as TV watching was concerned, it was pretty spectacular.

Over the years, we have replaced and even added to our REPLAY TV collection.  After replacing worn out hard drives and upgrading them to something faster and bigger, we can record up to 240 hours.  I have held on to programs that I haven't wanted to get rid of quite yet (I still have the whole season from BONES last year - yes, it was that good - and both seasons of SMASH).  Sometimes when there's not anything good to watch, I'll head into the other room and watch something I know that enjoyed before.  And even better, (especially during election season) I have skipped over more commercials than I care to imagine.  Wouldn't we like the chance to fast forward though difficult times in our lives?  Yeah, it doesn't work that way.

Life is not like a DVR - sometimes you have to just be apart of what's happening, even if it's not your choice. You can't change the channel.  You can't skip over the parts you don't like.  You learn things you'd wish you didn't know.  You are changed.

I am often reminded that it's the hard parts of life that end up making the most changes in me.  I grow through the challenges that I face, not through the easy parts. I learn from the questions I get wrong on the test, not from the ones I get right.  I become a better friend when I reach out beyond my comfort zone, taking the hand reaching out to me.  And all of the experiences of my life make me the one God has called me to be, rather than the person I imagined I would be.

One of the most interesting things about being a part of the Facebook community and authoring my blogs in the last several years is that I feel like I am known.  Through these communities, I can share my joys and challenges.  I can be kidded, encouraged, and sometimes called on the carpet. (My friend Shannon in Atlanta recently reminded me that Auntie Anne and her pretzels are not my friends... I have since extended that friendship ban to her cousin, Krispy Kreme.)  At SC Conference last month, many shared how they have been prayer for our community in the midst of a tragic loss.  My life is no longer an unknown to people I have loved over the years.  And theirs are not unknown to me.

We are connected to each other through our joys and our concerns.  We celebrate, we cry, we question, we grieve, we laugh, we love... and through it all, we live.  No rewinding, no fast-forwarding, just living life one day at a time.

It's all a gift.  Thanks be to God.

Peace, Deb

"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing."  George Bernard Shaw

"When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, 'I used everything you gave me'."  Erma Bombeck 

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Are You My Neighbor? (Sermon 7/14/13)

Luke 10:25-37                                         Fairchild AFB Chapel                                             July 14, 2013
Are you my neighbor? A Story of Radical Obedience

I checked my sermon bucket, the place where all sermons, good, bad and indifferent, go to reside after they are preached.  I was really surprised to find that in 22 years of ministry, I have never preached on the parable of the Good Samaritan.  What an amazing opportunity to teach on one of the most well-known and beloved of Jesus’ parables.  And what an unbelievable burden, since we think we know what this parable is all about.  Jesus’ stories often send us in a different direction than we originally intended to go.  And that, my friends, is a very scary proposition.  So let us begin.

In his book, Crazy Love, Francis Chan begins with this quote from 17th century French priest Francois Fenelon, “To just read the Bible, attend church, and avoid “big” sins – is this passionate, wholehearted love for God?”  And yet that’s the way many of us live.  But what would it be like if we really got to know God in all of his infinitely amazing ways?   What if we took Jesus seriously and committed to loving others wholeheartedly?  What if the Bible and its story weaving through time became our story?  What would life look like then? 

Today we encounter Jesus in conversation with a member of the following crowd.  Now there were two kinds of people who showed up whenever Jesus was around… those who were desperately in need of what he had to share, and those who wanted to trip him up.  The desperate ones were usually not members of polite society.  They were poor, lame, or diseased.  They were shunned, shamed and forgotten.  They were the woman who touched Jesus’ garment for healing, lepers who had spent much of their lives in solitude, people with shady backgrounds or occupations – In short, the outcasts of the world.

The ones who wanted to trip him up were the people who saw Jesus as a threat.  The one we encounter today is introduced as a scribe – one who as a traveling judge dispensed legal advice on complicated matters of Torah and Talmud – the law and it’s interpretations through hundreds of years.  This scribe must have found Jesus’ teaching quite threatening.  We hear him ask Jesus a simple, complicated question.  This testing by the scribe is actually a way of challenging Jesus’ honor, even more than his knowledge of the Law.  The man’s question about how to inherit eternal life is not about personal salvation.  It is much bigger than that.  His question is really about “Who is in?” and “Who is out?” 

And to this expert in the law, Jesus replies – love God with everything you have – heart, soul, strength & mind – and your neighbor as yourself.  This statement implies that no part of us or our lives is to be withheld from God.  There is no compartmentalizing in God’s world… no such thing as a personal or professional… no sense that faith is only lived on Sunday.  Indeed, when one loves God fully, life is lived out in service to others as a natural extension of that love… we can do nothing else.  The scribe, a lawyer, is indeed well read.  But Jesus’ answer shows us that knowing about God or the law is not enough.  Real love of God is found in living the commandments in everything we do.  Real love of God is about being “all in.”

The scribe’s follow-up question, “Who is my neighbor?” is meant to push Jesus out on a limb, exposing him to the judgment of the religious elite.  But Jesus does not back down.  He answers the question by telling the story we all know so well, but as with many of Jesus’ stories, it has a twist the crowd is not expecting.  Our story’s twist:  the hero of the story is by all accounts the enemy.  Samaritans were other, outsiders, unclean and unacceptable.  But by making this man the one who lived within  the commandments of God, Jesus smashes through all the conventional excuses for separation.  Race, religion & region (or nationality) – they count for nothing with Jesus. This Samaritan risks everything by showing compassion for a stranger.  And as this preconceived idea about Samaritans is shattered, all other stereotypes assumed by the crowd are in essence invalidated.

Even more remarkable, the Samaritan provided rescue and recovery for the man, expecting nothing in return.  His actions are a gift.  Jesus is teaching us that neighbors are not bound by social boundaries or class divisions.  Neither is mercy the product of a calculating heart, nor eternal life the reward for a life well lived.  Being a neighbor does not earn us a place in heaven.  Being a neighbor is what we do in response to the gift of eternal life that is already ours through Jesus Christ.  Eternal life is the promise.  Loving God and neighbor is the “thank you” note we write with our lives every day.

Now with parables, it’s natural to see ourselves in the characters, and this one is no different.  Upon first reading, I want desperately to see myself in the role of the Samaritan – a helper and friend to those in need.  But as I study it more and more, I see in myself much more of the other players in the story.  You know, the Priest and the Levite had excellent justifications for not stopping to help... to touch a dead body would make them unable to perform their appointed duties.  That happens to me, too.  I see myself often too busy to stop and help, even when I see a need that I can meet with little delay in my schedule.  Or maybe I'm afraid of what others will think of me if they see me relating to someone outside my tiny, comfortable world.  I can even see myself as the beaten up man, at times alone and battered by life, wondering if anyone really cares about my pain, my loneliness, my isolation.  

We can easily be lured into thinking of Jesus as a kindly Savior, one whose friendship assures us of a place in heaven.  We are comfortable with the idea of someone who saves us from our sins… and ourselves.  But it’s always a surprise that Jesus rarely talked about that kind of stuff. 

More and more, I realize that Jesus didn't come to make sure that things stayed the way they had always been.  No, whether we like it or not, Jesus came to change the world - to upset the apple cart, to challenge the status quo.  Prevailing religious wisdom said that following the letter of the law would save the world – some of us even live that way today.  Instead, Jesus asked the people (and us) to follow two commandments:  First, to love God with everything we have.  And then, as a natural outpouring of that relationship, to love our neighbors as much as we love ourselves.  In a nutshell, the 613 laws from the Torah and thousands of interpretations all boil down to one simple command – just LOVE.

And yet, in its simplicity, LOVE the most difficult challenge of all.  Why is that?  Because it often contradicts everything that the world says is important.  In his first letter to the church at Corinth, Paul writes to a congregation struggling with what it means to live outside the world’s expectations.  “For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God…  Where is the wise person? Where is the teacher of the law? Where is the philosopher of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world?... For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength.” (I Corinthians 1:18, 20, 25)

If nothing else, we live in a world that considers itself wise.  The trouble is that everyone’s understanding of wisdom is different.  I used to watch the news regularly, but somehow news coverage has devolved into commentary, people from all sides telling me how to think and live, and calling me stupid and worse if I disagree with them.  It’s no surprise that The New York Times has eliminated the comment sections on many of its news stories and editorials because people are so vile in their responses to what is written, with ugliness and condemnation equally shared from all sides of every issue. 

As I think about this parable and its challenge for my life, I realize that I have got to quit picking sides.  Republican/ Democrat – liberal/conservation – black/white/Hispanic – American/Foreigner – old/young – Christian/Muslim/Jewish/or No religious faith at all – Jesus tells us that all of these and all the others we can think of are false dichotomies.  The only question Jesus wants answered is “are you a neighbor to someone who needs you or are you not?” Or to put it another way: “Do you live out mercy?  Do you live in love?”

If I’m honest with myself, I realize that I have such a long way to go.  It’s too easy to get comfortable… to be lured into a routine which makes “busywork” demands of my time and my energy… too easy to be blinded to the needs around me… or to make assumptions about others… too easy to assume that those who don’t agree with me are my enemies… or expect someone else to take care of those needs that I’m just not that interested in meeting… too easy to worry about what others will think about me when I stand up for those who are deemed “other” and “outside” by the rest of society… It’s often too easy to just not care.

Zig Zigler wrote, “You have never really lived until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.” As soon as I saw this quote, I thought of this parable. And this week, I remembered my own Samaritan story.  A few years ago, Shawn and I left our dream assignment in Germany for ultra-sunny Altus, OK.  As usual, we checked out the local Methodist church and settled into a hot and windy life. 

A few weeks later, I was chatting with one of the ministers and said what I always say, “Let me know if I can do anything to help out with your ministry here.”  The associate minister and the office manager shared a look, and one of them said, “Well, there is this member who could use a little TLC.  She’s in the middle of treatment for a workman’s comp accident and has to travel to OKC once a month for appointments and procedures.  Her car isn’t reliable enough to make the trip, and it’s probably good for her not to drive in the city anyway.”  It sounded like a simple matter… take someone to a doctor’s appointment two hours away and maybe grab a bite of lunch and squeeze in a stop by TJ Maxx while we were gone.

The day before our first trip, I checked in with the office to get the address and to call J, who wouldn’t pick up the phone for a number she didn’t recognize.  I called from the church, and after I talked to her, I thought for a minute and then asked the staff a question I hadn’t thought of before.  “Is there anything else about her I should know?”  “Did we mention that she’s a former crack addict and spent two years in jail for check fraud?”  Long pause…… “Uh, no, I think I might have remembered that.”  “You’ll be fine.  She’s a good conversationalist,” (which is the equivalent of asking about someone’s looks and hearing, “She has a great personality.”)

For the next year I took J back and forth between Altus and OKC.  We talked about the oddest things.  I found out about her son, an AF NCO, her abusive ex-husband, and her favorite TV shows, “Prison Break” and “Dog, the Bounty Hunter” – ironic choices, for sure.  I saw the world from a whole new perspective, learned about how food stamps work, and how a person can live on $400 a month, including feeding two rescued Rottweilers.  Sometimes we talked about theology, but not very often.  J’s needs were simple.  She just wanted to get through her surgeries and hopefully receive enough disability benefits to not have to go back to work. 

There were days when I asked myself, “What were you thinking when you volunteered for this?”  Often, helping out was inconvenient and downright messy, like when I cleaned up throw up from the front seat floor mat after she had some out-patient surgery.  But at the end of each journey, I knew that I had made a difference.  J believed that someone cared, even though she didn't often say the words, “Thank you.”   

Eventually, my time with J came to an end.  Her longtime drug use had caused some dementia, and she finally went to live in a long-term care facility near her son and his family.  She was only 51 years old.  J wasn’t someone I would have chosen to be my friend, but in the end, she was my neighbor.  And because of her, I think differently about poverty and addictions and know something more about the lengths some people will go just to survive. 

We have a long way to go, my friends, if we are going to claim to be true neighbors to those around us.  Radical obedience to God’s commandment of love is a lifetime’s work.  It’s hard.  It’s scary.  It’s uncomfortable.  And in this story we are told that it’s what’s required to be true neighbors and deeply devoted disciples of Jesus Christ.  Maybe I have this sermon title all wrong.  Instead of the one I came up with in the beginning of the week, “Are you my neighbor?”  a new one may be more on point… “What kind of neighbor am I?”

The prophet Micah summed up a life dedicated to God in this way: “He has told you, O mortal, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?” (Micah 6:8)

May it be so with us!  Journey on, my friends, journey on.

Amen and Amen.

Almighty and merciful God, you have planted in us the seed of your word.  Help us by your Holy Spirit to receive it with joy and live according to it, so that we may grow in faith, hope, and love.  Lead us to reflect this love to our neighbors by helping them in all their needs.  We ask this through your Son, Jesus Christ our Lord, who taught us to prayer together saying, Our Father, which art in heaven, hallowed be thy name.  Thy kingdom come.  Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.  Give us this day our daily bread.  And forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.  And lead us not into temptation. But deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power, and the glory, forever and ever.  Amen.

Peace, Deb